I am a 27-year-old man and have been single all my life. Recently, my parents arranged my wedding to a lovely small town girl and I am all set to marry her in a month’s time. Though all is perfect, my problem is the fact that I’ve been addicted to porn since a long time and can’t spend a day without watching it. The thought that now I’ll finally have somebody to share my life with is troubling me because I think this habit of watching porn might have an effect on our marriage. What can I do to address the issue? Should I tell her about my addiction beforehand or wait for her to discover it by herself. Please guide me.

Pornographic addiction is like any other addictive disorder and needs to be addressed. I think you should try to get a treatment for the same before you take the plunge. Informing her will have negative consequences in my opinion. The fact that you feel she will discover it, shows that you do not appear to be motivated to give it up before the marriage. Some techniques that can be tried are finding the triggers that led you to have the addiction and then trying techniques like active distraction to avoid seeing pornographic material. This can include exercise, going for a hobby class, learning a new skill, talking to a friend etc. Professional counselling can also be done for this addiction.