Strangely, after two months, he came back and requested for a patch up. I asked him to come forward only if he is willing to commit. He agreed. His dad’s death followed, so we maintained a low profile for sometime. Now, we are in a long distance relationship. He makes courteous calls, doesn’t remember my birthday or any other personal detail.
I have a very strong feeling towards him and I have never felt this way for anyone, but I don’t think he feels the same for me. What should I do?
Answer by Dr Parul Tank: It must be quite challenging and even frustrating for you to maintain the relationship despite the responses you get from him. Sometimes it is worthwhile to let go and observe the reaction. However, he may get confused and not understand why you are ignoring him. It may be useful to tell him how you feel about him not responding appropriately and how difficult it is getting to continue for you. A solution focused conversation wherein you mention what you expect from him in terms of time, concerns about your feelings can also be brought up. He may an introverted and not be very generous with expressing himself. This can however be changed if you discuss your expectations and emotional needs with him.