Are you tired sleeping next to your partner but hesitant on telling him/her about the same? It’s time you bring it up.According to psychiatrists, there are many couples who wish to sleep separately and are tired of their partner’s tossing, turning and snoring in bed.However, they are scared to bring up the topic in case they hurt their beau’s feelings.
Relationship counsellor Dr Nandini Roy says, “I’ve seen many women and men say that though they love their partners a lot, sometimes they feel overwhelmed in the relationship and would love to sleep separately. However, because traditionally a couple should sleep in the same bed post marriage, it is considered a taboo to want space in the bedroom. But to keep your relationship going, you should consider sleep divorce whenever you feel the need to sleep alone.”
What is sleep divorce?
Also known as the ‘night divorce’, sleep divorce is basically referred to couples sleeping separately and wanting time alone in bed. Sleep expert Rashika Khetan says, “Lack of sleep can take a toll on your relationship as well as on your health. Most couples who have a sleeping disorder are often recommended to sleep separately so that they can improve the quality of their sleep before they get back to sleeping together.Less sleep can have a negative impact on your relationship and cause household problems.”
Why one must consider taking a sleep divorce
Contrary to popular belief that couples who do not sleep together have an issue in their relationship, clinical psychologist Dr Veena Chakravarthy says, “There is absolutely nothing wrong with couples opting for a sleep divorce. In fact, it has helped many couples find their ground in a marriage.Sleeping together is old school thought. There are times when the man of the house likes to get up early and go for his morning run, while the wife would like to sleep a little longer. If they sleep together, the wife would obviously get disturbed in the morning when the husband wakes up early . In turn, the husband may also stop waking up early and going out lest he disturbs her sleep. This can, in the future, give way to domestic problems.”
Tanushree Saxena, a 30year-old advertising professional says, “I work in an ad firm while my husband is a writer. By the time I get back home, he is busy working on his book. There are nights when he is busy writing and if he does so in the bedroom, I get disturbed. That is why we’ve decided to sleep separately .He sleeps in the study room, while I sleep in our bedroom. This has over time has helped nurture our relationship as well.After a week of sleeping apart, we look forward to spending time together.”
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