Vijeta (29)* and Vishal (27)* married nearly four months ago after dating for more than two years. They call themselves a happy couple, but it took a great deal of effort for them to get there.

Almost one year into the relationship, they had trouble bonding. Each carried the baggage of past relationships and though they were committed to getting married, it was hard to accommodate the other’s history.

“We wanted to improve our relationship and decided to meet a counsellor,” says Vijeta, a marketing professional.

The sessions were held once a week and lasted for nearly an hour. The couple was given questionnaires designed to reflect their personality and thoughts. The replies helped the counsellor understand their individual strengths and weaknesses and offer suggestions accordingly.

It helped a great deal, they say. “We could understand ourselves and our insecurities. Once I realised that I was jealous because she was still in touch with her ex, I could deal with it better. Also, I was more vocal about my dislikes and so Vijeta understood them better,” says Vishal.

Tina Gupta*, 31, and Kunal Mehra*, 34, who got married in December 2013, also feel visiting the relationship counsellor was the most sensible decision they took
to save their marriage.

“We had dated each other for over 5 years before we got married, so we thought we knew each other inside out. However, a month into the marriage, and we started to get this feeling that we were strangers,” says Kunal. Tina agrees. “After finishing household chores that were left for the weekend I wanted to relax at home, but he would insist on going out. After a tiring week day I wanted to relax but there was this mandatory phone call to his family that would go on for almost an hour daily. These were acting as triggers,” she says.

“Luckily one of my friends is a trained psychologist; we consulted her without wasting time. She spent 15 sessions with us and it has done us a great deal of good.”

Several urban couples have been disregarding social stigma to approach psychologists for relationship counselling to bond better. “Young couples believe that prevention is better than cure,” says Sadia Saeed, founder and chief psychologist at Malad’s Inner Space counselling centre in Mumbai.

“These couples are sensitive to the relationship and believe that marriage is about growing together rather than just pulling along.”

Tina Gupta*, 31, and Kunal Mehra*, 34, who got married in December 2013, also feel visiting the relationship counsellor was the most sensible decision they took
to save their marriage.

“We had dated each other for over 5 years before we got married, so we thought we knew each other inside out. However, a month into the marriage, and we started to get this feeling that we were strangers,” says Kunal. Tina agrees. “After finishing household chores that were left for the weekend I wanted to relax at home, but he would insist on going out. After a tiring week day I wanted to relax but there was this mandatory phone call to his family that would go on for almost an hour daily. These were acting as triggers,” she says.

“Luckily one of my friends is a trained psychologist; we consulted her without wasting time. She spent 15 sessions with us and it has done us a great deal of good.”

Several urban couples have been disregarding social stigma to approach psychologists for relationship counselling to bond better. “Young couples believe that prevention is better than cure,” says Sadia Saeed, founder and chief psychologist at Malad’s Inner Space counselling centre in Mumbai.

“These couples are sensitive to the relationship and believe that marriage is about growing together rather than just pulling along.”