A new study conducted at the Cornell University, the University of Minnesota and Minnesota Population Center claims that parenting is more stress and fatigue for mothers.
We can’t entirely disagree? Sample it yourself. At a park, while dads are mostly busy cheering the kid to swing higher, moms are seen running after the kid with a snack box in hand; or even at the kid’s performance in school, you see moms busy tucking and pinning the dress and hair till last minute. Even at late night partying, while dads will be enjoying their drinks, moms will worry about feeding the child and putting her to bed. Not taking the credit away from dads though, it is the differing roles they both manage.
Mothers spend more time catering to basic childcare chores and fathers spend time playing and getting involved in low-stress leisure activities with their kids. Also, mothers engage in more solo parenting, face more disturbed sleep and get less time for leisure time, which contribute to stress. The study appeared in the American Sociological Review.
And when it comes to newborns, mothers feel even more disheveled. Dr Kiran Coelho, celebrity gynecologist lays out some simple tips for dads to help new mommies:
Things that dads can do with the baby
1) Take baby out for a walk so mum can have some quiet time.
2) Feed the baby in the middle of the night or bring the baby to mum if breastfeeding (could also be expressed breast milk to give mum a rest); or; Feed the baby in the morning so mum can get some extra sleep
3) Help to look after any older children so that mum can adjust to life with a newborn again
4) Make sure you learn how to bath baby and change nappies
1) Make mum any meals, e.g. breakfast in the morning before going to work
2) Tell her she’s doing a great job and that you are proud of her and how much you love her
3) Spend some time with her by taking strolls togethe4) Pamper her by applying anti-stretch mark lotions which contain Vitamin E, Lavender, Calendula and Rosemary such as Bio Oil
5) No pressure for sexual acts – intimacy will return again soon
6) Let her de-brief / talk about the labour and birth as many times as necessary, without getting annoyed. Women find the need to talk such a huge life event over with someone who will just listen. Being a good listener is important
7) Tell her that it doesn’t matter if the home is messier than usual and help to do a bit of tidying
8) Let her cry or be emotional without trying to ‘fix’ her – simply comfort her