Body positive sex
Having good sex is not just about the act, but the way you feel about yourself when you are getting intimate with your partner. Feeling good about your body despite its flaws and accepting it as a gift is the key to being body positive. It’s also about not being scared to leave the lights on while you make love.lingerie with interesting cuts and lines guarantees a fun start to the act. Gone are the days when lacy and frilly intimate wear spiced up matters in the bedroom. Some of the most popular designs that flood the market these days include two-pieces in bold colours and patterns, like neons and baby dolls, and waist-high briefs. Apparently, lingeries that leave very little to imagination is so 90s!
Right to orgasm
While a lot of women have primarily been pleasers, it is only recently that they have been voicing their right to an orgasm. In fact, Nicki Minaj declared that she insists on a climax every time. The 33-year-old pop star was quoted as saying, “I demand that I climax. I think women should demand that. I have a friend who’s never had an orgasm in her life. In her life! I’m a pleaser, but it’s fifty-fifty.” So, here’s to more happy endings, again and again.Marinating is the way to go
This is one of the most recent trends and is definitely the one that’s catching up fast among couples. Marinating in sexual terms implies that you get aroused and set yourself in position for the act, but just don’t move. No, you are not being lazy; you just ‘marinate’ inside your partner. There’s no climax, but a great sense of intimacy. Go figure!
Make some noise
Khloe Kardashian opened up about her sex life and made a profound statement — “I actually think it’s rude if you’re not vocal, LOL. If my guy isn’t vocal, I’m not excited.” Yes, we’ve known how important it is to be vocal while lovemaking, but not many
make a noise! However, after Khole’s statement, people seem to be paying attention to it, as is evident by the various hashtags that trended online.evolved and how! Today, they come in various forms so that people of all sexes can derive pleasure from it. So, it’s just one toy for clitoral massage, a ring as well as a stimulator. Remote-controlled drone toys that work at the touch of a button for hands-free action (no pun intended) are also in demand.
Now, who doesn’t like a little adrenaline rush to spice up the act. However, risk-taking has become an important part of sexual pleasure today. From trying something
new every time — not just positions, but also places and performance — couples these days are willing to take risk for a more satisfying sexperience.Talking about birds and bees are passe; sexting has a whole new meaning today. With all those emojis in your smartphone, sexters have come up with quirkier ways to talk dirty. From using brinjals and strawberries to denote intimate parts and naughty smileys and droplets for orgasm, sexy emojis are definitely in vogue.
Going The tantric way
One of the most widely practised form of Yoga, Kundalini Tantra Yoga, has a detoxifying effect on the body and mind. Yoga practitioner Pratham Nanda says, “It involves a unique set of postures and dynamic breathing along with a serpent like movement of the spine and pelvis. The movements make the body enter a meditative space and you are no longer affected by ‘blockages’ and ‘tensions’. Tantra is the balancing of polarities within the mind and body.” It is this union with the self that allows one to be more intimate with others.
The rise of sexual well-being travel
If ‘anniversary tourism’ was the biggest trend last year, it’s travelling for sexual well-being that is taking the industry by storm now. Several destinations across the globe — Goa, Kerala, Mcleodganj, Bali, Fiji, Maldives, New Zealand, Mexico and Africa among others — have been identified where couples can travel to for rejuvenating themselves, both emotionally and sexually. Chirag Dhanoa, a travel blogger, says, “There are retreats to suit everyone’s needs — for those who are new to thegame and the ones who wish to revive their passion as well as to attain sexual nirvana.”
Sexual rejuvenation resorts have also come up in picturesque locations, where couples can address all their woes and also indulge in detoxification. Some of the activities that are part of the package include couple massages, sex talk sessions and tips on perfecting the art.”
A lot of couples try out these new trends and if they find it interesting, they continue with it as a fun exercise. However, quite a few of them have been mentioned in our ancient scriptures — Vigyan Bhairav Tantra — and have been implemented as well as improvised by people over time. The ancient texts say that climax is not the only goal of having sex, it has a more deeper meaning and is actually about the union of two people. And the latest fads resonate with it.
— Dr Rajan Bhonsle, sexologist
Indian youngsters are quite adventurous and do try out most of these trends to spice up their sex life. However, sex toys, for instance, are not commercially sold in our country, and that can prove to be a problem.
— Dr Gaurav Mitra, sexologist