Parents generally enjoy being with their kids but mothers are less happy than fathers with their parenting duties because they do more of the ‘work’ and less of the ‘fun’ tasks, a new study has found.
Researchers used time diary data to find that this experience gap is attributed to the differing tasks of each parent.
“The good news from our study is that parents generally enjoy being with their kids, but the bad news is that mothers enjoy it less than fathers because they do more of the ‘work’ and less of the ‘fun’ parenting tasks,” said Ann Meier, researcher at University of Minnesota in the US.
Meier and her colleagues Kelly Musick at Cornell University and Sarah Flood at the Minnesota Population Centre used time diary data from more than 12,000 parents that linked to their feelings in the 2010, 2012, and 2013 American Time Use Survey.
The team examined the types of parenting activities mothers and fathers performed and individual well-being during the activities.
Researchers found that not only do parenting activities between mothers and fathers differ, the environment surrounding the activity differs as well.
“When mothers are with their kids, they are more often by themselves. When fathers are with their kids, they are more likely to have other adults around, offering some back-up. This helps us understand why fathers are less stressed when with kids,” said Meier.Sleep also had an effect on parent’s differing levels of happiness, said Meier.
“Mothers are more likely than fathers to be called on by kids ‘around the clock.’ Fathers’ sleep and down-time are less likely than mother’s to be interrupted by kids. This is part of the reason fathers are less tired than mothers when parenting,” said Meier.
The study confirms what many mothers have noted anecdotally.
The data around parenting, activities, and happiness may help close the experience gap between genders.
“Having data systematically collected from thousands of parents allows us to confirm what parents have known for years – that parenting is meaningful but also stressful and tiring,” Meier said.
“Many mothers will recognise their experiences of interrupted sleep and daily feeding and bathing. Hopefully, many dads will see that their partners will likely be happier if they trade some of their leisure time with kids for more of the ‘work’ of parenting,” Meier added.