Cape Town-based life coach Carina Lewis suggests the following strategies for maintaining your independence:
• Keep your own friends and see them regularly without your partner.
• Have an interest, hobby or sport of your own that you do with other people.
• Do something new by yourself occasionally, such as joining a sports team, going to an interesting talk, going on holiday, etc.
Make sure your lady knows that even though you need space at times, you are still committed to her and your relationship. Once honesty is in place, she’ll have no reason to deny you a night out with your mates. Most likely she’ll want some me-time too.