Almost everyone knows the difference between the terms ‘having sex’ and ‘making love’. If you’ve been with your partner for a fairly long time and you’ve been getting the feeling that things aren’t as hot as they used to be between the sheets, chances are both of you have got into the rut of merely having sex instead of actually making love.
The main problem is that when you think of spicing up your sex life, extremely difficult Kamasutra sex positions come to your mind or something completely crazy out of a pornographic movie.
However, couples often tend to forget that it is the small things that make the biggest difference in reviving their sex life. One very important thing that couples forget to do in bed is to make eye contact while having sex. While dedication is important to keep any relationship going, passion is just as important if not more.
By looking at sex as just something that you enjoy doing with your partner from time to time and not as an opportunity to actually feel closer to him, you are missing out on a great bonding session. In fact, Japanese researchers have found that eye contact helps people fall in love.
Don’t underestimate the power of simply looking into each other’s eyes while he is inside you. It can be one of the most sensual and intimate things you can do in bed. If both of you haven’t actually made any eye contact while having sex, it can seem awkward, silly and even extremely uncomfortable in the beginning. Despite that, don’t shy away from actually looking at him. If he is on top of you, gently cup his face in your hands and pull it closer to yours.
You don’t have to straightaway just start staring at his eyes without even blinking. That’s not the point of this whole exercise. Instead, start by saying sweet nothings to him and gradually start maintaining eye contact. If you’re on top of him, bend down closer towards him. Gently kiss each him and tell him how much he means to you. Once you’ve built that rapport, don’t break your eye contact with him until he comes.