Answer by Dr Samir Parikh: There are a number of issues that both of you are grappling with, in terms of your relationship, and it would be a good idea to address each of these concerns in their individuality, knowing what can and cannot be fixed. Fights over trivial matters often break out, when there are deeper concerns that are being ignored or postponed, as is probably happening in this case. Understandably, getting a job in a reputed company will still take a few years and is an uncertainty, such matters cannot yet be foreseen and therefore, need not be a reason to stay in or end the relationship in itself. However, concerns about the family and your girlfriend’s prospective marriage do need to be addressed more urgently. If you both are serious about getting married in the future, then delaying that conversation with your parents is no longer prudent – you both need to muster the courage to talk to your parents about this relationship and your plans for the future. It’s essential for you both to know whether getting married to each other is a possibility, and if yes, what the repercussions of that would be for both of you and your families. To stay in a relationship or not is as much about the present as it is about the future; given that you cannot predict what will happen two years down the line, there is still a lot you can do today to secure the future you want for yourselves.