Ever since he has found a new job which needs him to travel, he has been ignoring me…” that seemed to be a permanent lament of financial planner, Ritu Shah who was in a live-in relationship with boyfriend Nikhil for the past seven years. The couple had plans of getting married sometime by the end of this year, but Ritu’s insecurities got the better of the relationship which ended after the couple decided to part ways.

Issues might crop up in a relationship when one partner is more insecure than the other, making it tough for both of them. A little bit of understanding and patience is all that is needed to strengthen the bond which might bite the dust if not cared for.

Where does this insecurity stem from?
No relationship is fun and easy to survive especially in the times that we live when there is so much of choice and distraction. When the person in relationship feels insecure, he fears about the partner’s intentions and wonders whether ultimately they will survive the relationship. Doubts and suspicion lead to mis-communication and the way you express your thoughts too changes. Mistrust is the next step when the person in doubt is not satisfied with the answers they get for the queries raised. Frequent recurrence of such incidents causes distress to both the partners leading to a distance. The partner who is targeted may try to control the situation initially but if it continues, might want to opt out of the relationship.

er since he has found a new job which needs him to travel, he has been ignoring me…” that seemed to be a permanent lament of financial planner, Ritu Shah who was in a live-in relationship with boyfriend Nikhil for the past seven years. The couple had plans of getting married sometime by the end of this year, but Ritu’s insecurities got the better of the relationship which ended after the couple decided to part ways.

Issues might crop up in a relationship when one partner is more insecure than the other, making it tough for both of them. A little bit of understanding and patience is all that is needed to strengthen the bond which might bite the dust if not cared for.

Where does this insecurity stem from?
No relationship is fun and easy to survive especially in the times that we live when there is so much of choice and distraction. When the person in relationship feels insecure, he fears about the partner’s intentions and wonders whether ultimately they will survive the relationship. Doubts and suspicion lead to mis-communication and the way you express your thoughts too changes. Mistrust is the next step when the person in doubt is not satisfied with the answers they get for the queries raised. Frequent recurrence of such incidents causes distress to both the partners leading to a distance. The partner who is targeted may try to control the situation initially but if it continues, might want to opt out of the relationship.

To salvage a promising relationship

  • Avoid clinging to your partner all the time
  • Don’t let anxieties drive away your love
  • Plan activities which both of you love to do together
  • Keep communication lines open
  • If you have trust issues, speak about them
  • Be honest about your feelings
  • If infidelity is the issue confront your partner
  • If your partner has hurt you let them know how deep the hurt is
  • Allow them to take their own time to think about the issues raised
  • Once the problems are sorted, learn to forgive and forget