Out of many things and instances, affairs are the ones wherein one-size-fits-all theory does not work. Especially when it comes to a partner or both cheating on each other, the outcomes vary from a couple to another. There are many who think their partner can never cheat on them and in case they do, they will leave them forever without even thinking twice.
However, when something this tragic really takes place in life of some other couples, it is altogether a different and a much difficult scenario to deal with. They end up in a state of mind that makes them feel excruciating pain and dilemma, as they cannot end the relationship for they love their partner a lot but the heartbreak does not allow them to carry on as if nothing happened. Here is some help that will work for both the unfaithful and the betrayed partner to cope and rebuild a healthy relationship:
Acknowledgement and acceptance is must
It is of paramount importance that the unfaithful partner acknowledges that he has made a mistake and the he is responsible for messing up a healthy relationship. On the other hand, it is important for the betrayed partner to come to terms with what has happened, as denial is no solution and it aggravates the pain and sorrow involved.
Think and decide
After a sad incidence of cheating takes place in a relationship, both the partners need to think a lot and decide. The one who cheats needs to decide whether he wants loves his partner much and wants to save the relationship or not. In addition, a cheater should never expect things to fall in place in no time and that his partner would simply say, “Ok, I forgive you.” It is downright foolish to expect something like this because such matters take time.
On the other hand, the one betrayed needs not bottle up emotions and feelings, rather one should cry out and should try to clear air as soon as possible. One needs to take such negative emotions out of one’s system, or else such emotions do not let move on. Once such emotions are out, one should decide whether the cheater back in their life and to give them another chance or not.
Limit the time when you discuss infidelity
Once a couple decides to carry on their relationship even after an episode of cheating attacks their bond, both the partners need to limit the time when they discuss infidelity. It is but natural that the betrayed one will continue and feel the urge to bring back the same issue all over again for quite some time. However, the better way is to avoid repeating the sad instance, or else it will get impossible for both the partners to carry their relationship any further.
Think more of the good old times spent together
There is nothing more difficult than a situation in a love affair, where a partner feels a strong urge to break a relationship for she has been betrayed but just cannot do it. The love is so strong that it just does not allow her to let go of her partner who cheated her. The idea; course of action here is to think and remember the past, the good old time. The time when you both got together, things and qualities that attracted you towards your partner. You need to relive those moments in order to rekindle the old flame.