My husband and I had our share of fights like a normal couple. But, things went awry after our baby arrived. My mother-in-law joined us for childcare and that was the beginning of a mess. While my husband used to be a sorted guy before,
he’s turned into a complete chauvinist now. Both these people criticise my domestic skills, which can’t be perfect after 9 hours of office, 2 hours of traffic, 3 hours of cooking and sleepless nights. That’s not all, my mother-in-law abuses me
in his absence and spreads rumours around neighbors about me and my character. My husband refuses to believe my version and even when he does, he doesn’t want to comment on it. Now, there is so much tension between us thanks to
all this that my husband has started sleeping in my mother-in-law’s bedroom and both are pressurizing me for a mutual divorce. I don’t want that, what to do.
Answer by Dr Atul Aswani: Hi there. Marriage counseling tells us that most marriages face pressure from two sides. Parents from one end and the arrival of children from the other. You seem to be on the receiving end from both sides.
The situation seems difficult as they are already talking about a divorce through mutual consent.
How would it be if you were to tell your husband that it is a good idea to undergo some professional marriage counseling before you commit to a mutual consent divorce?
See if you could get your point across with the help of some family friends and relatives. Perhaps some people your husband and mother-in-law look up to.
Stick to your guns. Do not give up. Try to emphasize to your husband that your child will suffer the most as a consequence of the absence of a parent.Continue to be pleasant but firm with your mother-in-law. Probably, your husband will
notice your respectful attitude and will become open to a dialogue. All the best.