And I totally get that feeling. It’s difficult to be a fully responsible grownup on a 24/7 basis — especiallyoutside of work. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible, or something you shouldn’t work towards. As psychologist Nicole Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC, says in an email to Bustle, “Responsibility should not only be thought of something you are at work … It should be quality that you have developed over time that makes things run in a more efficient and organized manner, and enables you to be the best version of yourself you can be.”
I probably don’t have to say it, but when you aren’t responsible, it can start negatively affecting your life. “Individuals who are not responsible struggle at work,have a hard time making goals and deadlines, and lose jobs often,” Martinez says. “They are not present, or are forgetful in their relationships, which can end up costing them the relationship, or losing the respect and trust of those they care about.”
All of that drama is best to be avoided. So in order to start heading in a more mature, grownup direction, here are some traits of responsible people. Feel free to emulate them, until the habits stick.
They Don’t Make Excuses
Responsible people seem to have a magic ability to stick to their plans, much to the annoyance of the rest of us. If they want to get up earlier, they do. If they plan to save money, it actually happens. But even more impressively, they have the ability to say no to something they can’t commit to — and that’s just about as responsible as it gets. Going forth, think clearly about what you can and cannot do, in order to avoid having to make an excuse, according to Djordje Todorovic on Lifehack.org. It’s better to be honest than to make an excuse and back out.
Habits Of Responsible People
Responsible people keep their cool, and don’t let their anger or jealousy get out of hand. According to Daum, it’s because they know that negative emotions can quickly derail a situation (think work meeting, get together, etc.) in a way that isn’t productive, or fun.