Question: I am a 20-year-old boy studying in college and have fallen in love with my teacher. All this started a couple of months ago, when we started chatting casually. Now, both of us love each other very much and have already graduated towards physical intimacy. But the problem is that she is 6 years elder to me and it’s her age of getting married.
Her family has already selected a boy for her. Neither can I talk to her parents (because they won’t obviously accept this kind of a relationship) nor can we run away from the society. What should we do? We really love each other and it’s not mere attraction. Please help!
Answer by Dr Ashima Pruthi: I understand how hard it must be for you to gain social acceptance when you are in a relationship with a woman who’s much elder to you, but at the same time, I would like to tell you that there’s nothing wrong in loving somebody older to you as age is just a number.
What is a point of concern in your relationship is the fact that you are still studying and it’s obviously difficult to keep up with this commitment. I suggest that you discuss the scenario with your partner and ask her to convince her parents to wait for a few years before he decides to settle down.
If she can convince them for the same, then you can very well plan for a bright future together. If at all you choose to be together, remember the journey ahead will be a tough one. If the two of you can’t wait, then it’s best to end this relationship cordially before it results into a terrible heartbreak you’ll repent all your life.
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