This article was written by Heather Kindberg and republished with permission from YourTango. There’s no question that certain sex positions facilitate higher levels of emotional intimacy. These positions allow a couple to go beyond their sensory experience, intensifying the intimacy of their encounters and imbuing them with emotional meaning.
Eye contact, kissing, caresses, and trusting, are all emotional complements to the physical experience of sex. These nine moves promote that super deep (emotionally speaking, obvi) connection that helps you fall in love like never before—so be sure to use these wisely.
1. Woman On Top
A man lying down with the woman on top can be a vulnerable position for both partners, which can create emotional intimacy. He has to give up control, while your goods are totally on display. This sex position is ideal for lots of touching and intimate caresses.
2. Hold Me
In this position the man holds the woman as if she’s just jumped into his arms. With your legs wrapped around his waist and your arms around his neck, this loving position is conducive to slow movements, passionate kisses, and romantic swaying. #aww
3. Enhanced Missionary
The missionary position is already an intimate way to have sex, since your faces are close and almost all of your body is in contact. To enhance the emotional intimacy of the position, have him hold your butt or move his legs to the outside of yours to more fully envelop your body.
And if a couple is so inclined, this position also offers a good approach for anal sex by retaining face-to-face emotional intimacy.
Although there’s no eye contact in spooning, this sex position creates intense emotional connectedness as the he cradles you with his entire body. It’s also a wonderful position for touching, squeezing, rubbing—and even hand-holding, which can be incredibly intimate during sex. This position is considered one of the best sex positions for female orgasm. Woop, woop!
5. Hands Free
Have him sit on a chair and straddle him with your feet on the floor. This allows for face-to-face contact, and easy access for kisses, whispers… and touching everywhere.
6. Crossed Legs or Lotus
The lotus sex position offers crazy emotional intimacy. He sits cross-legged, or in the actual yoga-style lotus position, and you get on his lap, arms and legs wrapped around him. You’ll be fully entwined and face to face. The need for slower, sensual movements in this position turns up the heat.
7. Standing Missionary
Turn the missionary position 90 degrees so you’re both standing, and you’ll find that this full-body-contact sex position is super hot. Muscles tighten to remain standing and, even with a support behind you, you’re both more physically dependent on each other.
8. Slow Going
In this sex position, he’s seated, legs extended, leaning back on his arms.You’ll sit on top, facing him, lean back, and extend your legs behind him. By necessity, this position requires slow, gentle movements. There is an electric emotional intimacy in not being able to move much.
9. Higher Love
Lie on your back at the edge of a bed or another surface, and put your legs on your partner’s shoulders as he stands in front of you. Both of you share control; he leads the movements, and you can use your legs to push him back a bit and slow him down, or to let him lean all the way in.
Now get after it, you lovebirds!